|It is said that
entire life of an Arab and his thoughts are
centered around the opposite sex. Thus even at
the age of 55 to 60 years he is on the look out
for another young wife.
What is the difference
between Westerners' and Arabs' attitude towards
sex? The habits of these men are controlled by
the social circumstances, religion,
permissiveness, alcoholism and many other
Western boys start having sexual intercourse with
their girl friends, from the age of 15 or 16, an
Arab boy cannot dream of this till he gets
married, which is usually after the age of twenty
or twenty-five. And till then, he has to hide
facts of even nocturnal emissions and
masturbation from all persons including his
family members! Naturally homosexuality in Arabs
is practised off and on at this agedue to
non-availability of the opposite sex and not as a
new desire, as in Western countries where certain
males would prefer homosex to heterosex.
married adult Arab who is, by his religion,
allowed to have four wives (of course majority of
them cannot afford to maintain more than one
wife), the main difference in this population and
the Western society is the increased frequency of
sexual intercourse. Although many of the Arab men
would exaggerate and you must discount some of
their statements, the fact is that they do make
many more frequent visits to their wives.
have no other entertainment available in their
country. Sports are hardly heard of in an average
Arab family. Also at all the social get
togethers, men always boast of their sexual
athletic achievements! To this is added plenty of
spare time and "less" tension in the
population than in Western, fast moving society.
factor is the climate. Because of hot weather,
their day starts early and finishes by lunch time
so that afternoon "nap" is available to
majority of them and then why not to take
advantage of bedding with their wives at that
convinced that an average Arab does the sexual
exercise much more often than an Indian or a
Westerner. An Arab phallus is more often bigger
in size, and is maintained very Clean. Part of
the looks are because of "clean"
circumcision done on them and absence of smegma.
Part of the "big" look is due to the
absence of pubic hair. The pubis is shaved every
few days. Also their semen production is much
faster. Many of them would remember their young
days when they did, what I have termed as "status
coitus", when during a single
intercourse they have ejaculated three to four
times without withdrawing the phallus, which got
erected soon after every ejaculation!! After
discussing in detail the sexual habits of most of
my Arab patients, I find, following is the
average frequency of the sexual intercourse in
this population :
ages of 20 to 40, many Arabs would have (either
attempt or wish to have!) a session three to four
times a day. Although many of them would have a
session in the afternoon or early morning before
bath, most of them do have more than one session
at night before going to sleep. After that age
and around fifty, many would have twice a day.
After the age of sixty, most of them continue to
have one session per day even till the age of 70
to 80 or more. This habit is not universal though
I have had patients who tell me that sexual
intercourse has become such a routine that they
feel funny, weak or abnormal if they abstain for
more than two to three days!
And yet I
do see so many "Westernised"
Arabs who, in the middle age visit their wives
only once or twice a week! But they would be
mocked at by their friends (or young wives) if
they heard of this "standard" sexual
problems of Yemenis are complex. Many of them are
away from their wives for months together serving
in the surrounding countries. Also, though some
types of 'Qat' are sex
stimulating, majority of the times 'Qat'
depresses the sexual desire and the performance.
of Arab men are covered by veils ("Burkka")
and are often very shy. Because of this
discordance and the "joint
family" system, with a number
of married couples in the same family, many Arabs
would like to satisfy their instinct without any
"fore play". This in fact is the most
common cause of 'premature ejacuIation', which is
the main type of sexual weakness complained of by
many of them. More so, fore play would be
required much more when an elderly male is trying
to enter the tight introitus of a young wife!!
hardly ever heard any one complain of lack of
sexual desire, except a few Yemeni psychoneurotic
other sex problem is the erectile impotency. So
far, I have not found any organic cause for this
symptom, (except a solitary case of shy Dragger
Syndrome). As mentioned elsewhere Tabes Dorsalis
(Syphilis of C.N.S.) is not seen in this
population. Diabetes Mellitus does not seem to
affect sex so much as it does in other
populations, though, off and on, I do see marked
impotency in diabetics. (Vice-versa, I have seen
so many diabetic Arabs, who continue to have a
normal sex life as described above) .
these patients would agree to and say that they
get nocturnal or early morning erections (at the
wrong time! according to them) and have
functional impotency. There are a lot of factors
responsible for"keeping up" this
single experience of premature
brings about a suspicion in their minds
of sex weakness and this leads to
then start communicating with their
friends, and hear of their sexual habits,
which further increases their inferiority
complex and causes more impotence.
then start noticing the quality, quantity
and the thickness of semen and get "ideas"
that the semen may be defective. More
often the specialists would ask for the
semen examination as an investigation of
erectile impotence (new fashion or is it
to satisfy the Arab visitor)! Very often
if the report shows slightly low sperm
count, it causes more anxiety and leads
to more impotence. If one notices the
column of "abstinence period"
in semen examination reports, it is
always blank (may be because of language
difficulties). And that is, in fact, many
a times, the cause of oligospermia
reported in semen examination.
prolactin levels and testosterone levels done on
hundreds of my patients were invariably normal.
these patients develop low backache in the
morning if their sexual performance has been poor
on the previous night. Many of them develop
constant psychogenic backache due to sex
develop symptoms of neurosis.